"Hate The Sin, Not The Sinner" Is A Garbage Sentiment; Here's Why

I'm aware that I'm probably not going to earn a lot of non-secular friends and while I don't want to exclude anyone, as an ex-theist myself and queer person, sometimes I hear certain things my Christian peers say and I think to my self, wow, what a garbage thing to say to another human being.

In honour of that, here's something I recently had to say to someone that bears repeating.

Maybe you've grown up with some liberal values but you strongly believe that homosexuality is a sin. I don't know how you came to that conclusion. I don't care. And maybe you've found yourself saying in some comment thread, or to some passer-by, or in some casual conversation that even though you hate the sin, you don't hate the sinner.

Your worldview is garbage.

It is not for you to decide what is or is not a sin. If we are to be judged, it will not be by you.

Don't you ever tell me that who I love, my feelings of attraction, my identity is a sin. I could throw sentiments back at you; Let he who is without sin cast the first stone, remove the beam from your eye and then you can see how to remove the speck from mine, love thy neighbour et cetera, et cetera.

But I don't owe you any such diplomacy.

If there's a deity at the end of this short life of mine and he deems it a sin, he isn't worth worship, he isn't worth praise, he isn't worth acknowledgement. And if you follow such a god, you're a fool led by those who view their ignorance as a virtue.

Before you decide to open your damn mouth and tell me that my homosexual tendencies are sinful, you better have some damn good reasoning behind it. Unless you can tell me why it's so bad that I could love another man, that I could be intimate with another man, why it's so awful that two women can love and be intimate with one another, unless you can make me believe that I'm committing some world altering, pain causing action;

I want you stop.

Because you're not "hating the sin, not the sinner." You're telling me to my face that you believe my love is worth less then yours.

And as a queer person, when I'm told my love is less valuable, when I'm told I shouldn't have pride in my identity, when I'm told I'm not worth as much as my heterosexual counterparts?

I start telling people to fuck off.